Are you so busy putting out fires everywhere and reacting to everything that’s going on around you that you haven’t allowed yourself the headspace to dream?
I want to tell you something that I think is so very important and something that no-one ever told me:
When we take time to dream, to really consider what we want in life, we can see clearly the life we are meant to have. There is a reason those dreams come to us, a reason that those ideas just “pop” into our mind.
These are the things that we truly want in life. They are calling to us, sometimes screaming at us, ON PURPOSE. Why are we blowing them off?
These ideas, these dreams; the big ones, the small ones, even the ones we feel are impossible, are in fact: possible.
I believe they are an actual, very personalized, ad-free mother f*%&ing (did I mention I curse sometimes?) Google map to the life that we are meant to have. A life that continually leads us to the next best version of ourselves.
WTF? Why didn’t anyone tell me this before? I love maps!
IT’S TIME TO TUNE INTO YOUR PERSONALIZED MAP.
IT’S TIME TO GET BACK ON COURSE. OR TO HOP ON THAT COURSE FOR THE FIRST TIME EVER.
THAT PROJECT YOU’VE BEEN YEARNING TO CREATE. THE ONE THAT SOUNDS SO FUN. IF YOU COULD JUST FIGURE IT OUT. IF YOU JUST HAD THE TIME. IF YOU JUST…JUST…JUST
THAT PROMOTION YOU KNOW IT’S TIME FOR. THE ONE YOU ARE AFRAID TO ASK FOR. THE ONE THAT YOU WILL JUST, YOU KNOW, WAIT AROUND FOR UNTIL IT LANDS IN YOUR LAP…
THAT HOME PROJECT YOU’VE BEEN LONGING TO TACKLE IF YOU JUST KNEW WHERE TO START, IF YOUR HUSBAND WAS JUST A LITTLE MORE HELPFUL, IF YOUR KIDS WOULD JUST PICK UP THEIR DAMN SOCKS, IF…IF…IF…
LET’S STOP ALL THAT. LET’S STOP WAITING.
LET’S STOP IGNORING OUR HIGHEST SELF. THAT INNER VOICE. THAT PULL TOWARDS OUR BEST LIFE.
INSTEAD, LET’S MAKE A CHOICE TO JUST DIVE RIGHT IN. EVEN IF IT FEELS IMPOSSIBLE. EVEN IF IT FEELS HARD.
LOOK - WE CAN DO HARD THINGS! WE’VE HEARD THIS FROM ALL THE SELF HELP BOOKS WE LOVE AND HAVE READ AND LISTENED TO TWICE. WE SUBSCRIBED TO AUDIBLE JUST FOR THIS! WE KNOW THAT DEEP DOWN IT’S TRUE, SO LET’S AT LEAST TEST IT OUT. YOU CAN DO HARD THINGS.
SERIOUSLY - WHY NOT? WE HAVE THIS ONE LIFE TO TRY SHIT. AT THE VERY LEAST WE WILL LEARN SOMETHING ABOUT OURSELVES. AND AT THE VERY MOST WE WILL REACH OUR GOALS - WHATEVER THEY MAY BE!
I HAVE THE TOOLS TO HELP YOU:
FIND WHAT IT IS YOU REALLY WANT IN LIFE
CREATE AND SET THOSE GOALS
GAIN THE CONFIDENCE YOU NEED TO GET STARTED
TO MOVE FORWARD
TO DEAL WITH THE OBSTACLES THAT FOR CERTAIN WILL ARISE
TO LOVE YOURSELF HARD AND DEEP THROUGH THE ENTIRE PROCESS
TO KEEP GOING
TO FIND THE TIME FOR ALL OF IT
TO REACH YOUR GOALS
TO REPEAT THE ENTIRE PROCESS AS MANY TIMES AS YOU WANT TO
I HAVE DONE THIS MYSELF WITH WEIGHT LOSS, PARENTING, WRITING PROJECTS, PERFORMANCES, FAMILY TRIPS, LEADERSHIP ROLES, MY RELATIONSHIP WITH MY HUSBAND (MEOW), AND OH YEAH, EVEN WITH MY OWN MOM. WHAT? IT’S TRUE. AND SO MUCH MORE.
MY TOOLS WORK. I WANT TO SHARE THEM WITH YOU. I LOVE WOMEN. AND MEN. AND ALL THE PEOPLE. I WANT US ALL TO LIVE OUR MOST AUTHENTIC LIVES. WE SHOULD ALL HAVE THESE TOOLS. AT THE READY.
WHEN WE LIVE OUR BEST, MOST AUTHENTIC LIVES WE ENCOURAGE OTHERS TO DO SO TO. AND THEN OMG - LIFE IS FUN. AND CENTERED. BALANCED. AND…AND…AND…
READY TO HAVE SOME FUN CREATING YOUR BEST LIFE?
“The point of having goals is not so we can achieve them and be happier than we are today. The reason to have goals is because our purpose on this planet is to evolve…”
— Brooke Castillo
I’m here to help you get into the nitty gritty of creating YOUR goals simply because you LOVE this type of self exploration and experimenting, simply because you feel the NEED to dive in or simply because you just fucking WANT to.
Let’s Make Your Ideas a Reality
Let's remove the obstacles blocking you from knowing how great you are.
Goals give your brain a direction. They create a deliberate focus for your brain.
No matter what, we are always creating results in our life. Whether we realize it or not. Results don’t just happen to us.
GOALS are a way of deciding what we want those results to be instead of just doing it willy nilly and letting our brain decide without any deliberate intent.
Our brain is like an unsupervised toddler in a candy store. And it will go on grabbing handfuls of fake cigarettes and thinking thoughts that may be causing us to go in a direction we don’t want to go unless we learn to MANAGE IT..
I can help you manage your mind and choose, on purpose the direction you want your life to go from now on.
Maybe you are afraid.
I understand. I have felt these things too.
You are afraid it will be a waste of time
That your ideas will be rejected
That someone is already doing the thing you want to do and they’re doing it better. They have an agent, more money, a nanny
You feel what you have to say, what you want to create, isn’t important enough, politically correct enough, or life changing enough to matter.
You don’t have the space, the privacy, and someone is always under foot
You don’t have enough time, too many pick ups, drops offs and soccer games.
You are afraid you are too old, too fat, too wrinkly to do that thing you love.
You are pretty positive that you should just focus on being a Mom 24/7 instead.
You’re afraid YOU HAVE ALREADY PEAKED, it’s all downhill from here so what’s the point.
You’re afraid because you’ve tried setting goals before and it didn’t go well. Why would you put yourself through that disappointment again? You’re not a masochist after-all.
You don’t want to look stupid
Embarrass yourself
OR FAIL
Sound Familiar?
Hey there. Hi. How ya doin? We must be twins. I see you. 100%.
I have felt these exact fears. In fact, I continue to feel these fears with EVERY. SINGLE. GOAL. I work towards.
WHY? Because -I’m human. Like you!
The only difference is: I have learned tools that help me manage all of these feelings, make these fears work on my behalf and then CREATE AND TACKLE THE GOAL ANYWAY.
Let me show you how.
I help my clients dive into these fears, NOT push them away.
We’re not going for fearless here - we’re going for
“Hey Fear - I see you and guess what - we’ll be doing this ANYWAY.”
You’re talented. Smart. Creative.
You are so good at loving on everyone around you, organizing everyone else’s schedule, and telling everyone how proud you are of them for having such courage! So why does finding time for yourself, encouraging yourself and leaning into your own GOALS, feel impossible? Why do you feel so miserable? How can you be so lonely when everyone is in the house and has been for months, will this pandemic ever end?
There is a massive disconnect somewhere right?
Yes. Yes there is.
Let me explain this as best I can.
First of all I want you to know that you are NOT doing anything wrong!
This is all normal
This is something most women, errr, most humans experience.
But, it doesn’t have to stay this way.
I can show you how.
I used to feel so much fear and anxiety over all my big and small dreams that me crying silently on my kid’s floor while they fell asleep was not an unlikely scene.
If I can turn this around, you can too.
Here’s what I found out.
The fact that you don’t have “a room of your own” isn't the problem.
Your pick ups and drops offs and soccer games are not the problem.
Your partner not picking up their stupid socks is also not the problem. Although WHY - why can’t they just pick them up already?!
The real problem is our own minds
When left unattended
Our own minds talk back to us like the meanest, most drunk girl at the high school mixer that we didn’t want to go to anyway
Destructive and scary. For sure a bully. A Drunk. Teenage. Bully. Even if we are no longer supposed to use that word - this is exactly what your brain can turn into. A Straight-Up. Drunk. BULLY!
“You’re not good enough to even write a thank you letter weirdo, much less a memoir! You know everyone thinks this little project of yours is silly right? Want a beer?”
“Her partner is supportive. And rich. And can fix a cabinet. Too bad you’re stuck with this creep.”
“You are a terrible mom. You should be helping your kids with something, anything - instead of painting alone in your studio. How dare you.”
You know what I’m talking about.
Here’s some truth for you: that drunk bully part of our brain is a real thing.
And it is wired to seek out problems and
find ways our lives come up ummm…short.
It’s designed to alarm us really.
But the good news is, we can learn to manage it, have control over it. Be ON TO IT!
You feel afraid and overwhelmed now only because
NO ONE EVER TAUGHT YOU TO QUESTION THAT DRUNK BULLY VOICE,
or told you that MANAGING IT WAS A POSSIBILITY.
There is a part of your brain that ALREADY KNOWS how to be LOVING and SUPPORTIVE of YOURSELF AND YOUR GOALS.
We can put that part in charge.
Clients who work with me find their peace, their strength, their highest self and see their dreams clearly again, even when their
kid is saying “NO MOM” on repeat and just won’t GET.OFF.THEIR SCREEN or out of YOUR room!
They stop using instagram as a weapon against themselves
and instead gain perspective on it.
They re-create a loving connection with their partner
and what? what? Even feel like they are dating again? No way. YES WAY!
They begin to see that YES - their dreams are real and POSSIBLE.
Their mood improves.
They stop ignoring that CALLING and THEY DIVE IN! FEAR AND ALL.
When you can enjoy yourself, start following your dreams again and learn that you can still,
be the mom you want to be
be the partner you want to be
even be the room parent you want to be (if that’s your thang)
When you learn this
the trajectory of your entire life can change.
These tools have helped me:
Lose 25 lbs. And KEEP IT OFF.
Write new songs and share them on stage for an audience.
Date my husband again.
Listen to feedback on my parenting skills from well-meaning relatives and not, you know, attack them.
Enjoy my kids.
Survive morning carpool.
CREATE NEW FUN GOALS FOR MYSELF ON THE FLY!
And so much more.
I want every woman, every person, to have these tools. To know that they can create WHATEVER IT IS THEY WANT for themselves.
You can be the exact person you want to be - whatever that means to you! Wise, calm, creative? Wild, silly, fun? Sassy, Sexy, Badass?
Supportive of yourself and those around you? YES PLEASE.
A person who answers THAT VOICE INSIDE PULLING YOU TOWARDS A NEW GOAL. Simply because it sounds FUN. And because you WANT TO.
It’s not all about being happy-happy-unicorns and rainbows. Although I am ALL FOR THAT. Love a rainbow.
It’s about taking practical and simple tools that actually work
and using them
to make you LOVE yourself, your family, and your BIG AND SMALL DREAMS again. Or for the first time ever.
Are you curious to see if you can set goals, go for them and STILL show up for your children and everyone else the way in which you want to?
Let’s find out. I can show you how.
With zero shame for who you are or for what you want to create in this life. Period!